Is the belt really a better option ?
We are the unfortunate generation.(25-99) When we grew up and caused trouble we got a good hiding. We grew up fearing the belt and our parents . I still hear many saying "they don't make children like they used to." What makes our case even more unfortunate is that we are raising children who are aware of their human right not to recieve a hiding and any harshness from parents or teachers has children (both at home and at school) crying "abuse!!". After reading Abeys blog on spanking I thought to myself,. "Is the belt really a better option ?" Most parents and educators alike would now be screaming out Yes at the top of their voices.
Based on past experiences I would say Yes and no. Why?
Yes, because if we use the belt on rare occasions with the proper reasons and intentions in mind, the belt can be quite effective. No, because if we give the child the idea that he/she is recieving a ;lashing based more on our rage than their misdemeanour, then a belting can be quite harmful. Especially in the case of repeat offenders. Learners or our very own children can become rebelious. Neither our word or our deeds can then be considered as corrective action in their eyes.
Please make comments on your views regarding the belt.
Thank you
People who punish kids or use the belt whilst emotional, make this corrective measure look barbaric. Adults who torment or physical abuse - not spanking - their kids should be brought to account for their horrible deeds. The afore-mentioned is because of: I " if a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight". Occasional spanking can be used as disciplinary intervention tool to ensure that kids aren't swayed away from the ideals that parents are trying to instil. Spanking, if done in a constructive corrective manner, can be effective in instilling discipline. Too much emphasis on the Children's Right, unfortunately sent out a wrong perception that kids can rebel against their folks.
ReplyDeleteOur kids are now shielded from suffering the ramifications of their action, hence the tendency to justify even their wrong deeds. They fall pregnant at an early age, they should be nursed, provided with school work; they hijack or rob someone, they should be rehabilitated; they fail a Grade, they should be progressed or condoned - as opposed to them being allowed to endure the consequences of the choices they made, thus also enabling them to know that each choice they make has consequences - whether Good or Bad - that they must live with and learn from.